Yes, I regret it a lot. Because sometimes, out of frustration and tiredness, I scold my seven months old son. But later on, I regret and wish that I could go back to the same time or situation and manage it patiently. We read many articles or blogs about not scolding a toddler or child or yelling at kids or about saying NO to them, and many of us decide that we will not scold our child next time. But is it really possible to stick to that decision?
Frankly, for me, it is not. Because every time I scold my child, I remind myself that I did wrong immediately after that. I don’t know how to stay calm and patient in such situations when your kid is annoying.
But, now, after understanding more and more about child care, I came up with a solution on how you can control yourself about scolding your child. And here I am going to share what I do when my kid is naughty. And how should we stop them from doing anything that they shouldn’t? However, before checking the tips, let us know how our scolding or yelling at kids can impact their behavior in the short and long term.
Effects of Scolding a Child
Short-Term Effects of Scolding or Yelling At A Child
You’re likely to see some of the short-term psychological effects of yelling at a child shortly after you’ve done it. Aggression, anxiety, and withdrawal are all short-term impacts of yelling.
- When the parents hit their kids, show disappointment, or yell at them, their children become more aggressive.
- When children are spanked and given time-outs, and their mothers show disappointment, some children develop more anxiety symptoms.
- Children who have been verbally abused may have poor self-control or be more likely to react with anger or frustration.
- Children frequently imitate their parents’ actions. If you yell at them, they will most likely yell back. From their perspective, you’re teaching them how to communicate the way you want them to.
- Sometimes, you may not notice an increase in violence or talk back, but you may notice symptoms of your child withdrawing from you, depending on the child’s personality. Rather than relying on you, kids may turn to their peers, teachers, or trusted adults.
Long-term Effects of Scolding A Toddler or Yelling At Kids
The short-term psychological impacts may cause you to consider how you may better respond to your children when you are upset or frustrated with them or for any other reason. When parents verbally abuse the kids, the effects can continue for a long time.
- Children are prone to treat others in the same way their parents treated them in their childhood. The habits and inclinations that children establish due to their childhood relationships will follow them into adulthood unless they are addressed or intervened.
- Kids who were yelled at much in their childhood may bully other kids because they have a false idea of healthy boundaries.
- Yelling at children makes them feel bad about themselves and makes it difficult to interact with others. Some of the other long-term psychological effects of yelling at a child can induce the symptoms like Anxiety, A negative view of self, Social problems, Self-esteem, Aggression, Behavioral problems, Depression, Bullying behavior, etc.
Tips To Maintain Your Calm Rather Than Scolding A Child
Overall, the psychological impacts of yelling at kids are detrimental and long-lasting. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you yell now and then. Consider approaching the child soon after you’ve yelled and explained what has upset you, as well as apologizing. If you work to avoid yelling, you’ll have fewer of these instances in the future, which means you’ll have fewer things to apologize for. The additional benefit of apologizing is that it allows you to model behavior that displays how the child might work to mend a connection they may have harmed in the past.
Now, there are some tips I have tried with my seven months old, and I found them very easy rather than scolding and then regretting.
Diverting their Mind
When your child does anything they should not do, just divert his mind. For example, if he puts non-eatable things in his mouth, immediately exchange that with eatable things like biscuits or anything you want him to eat.
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Whenever your toddler sits like that, Don’t say, ‘change your position’ or ‘don’t sit like that, go to them, and instead of scolding, change their position yourself and make them sit with any other comfortable position.
Never Ignore them
Sometimes, we tend to ignore the highly naughty child because we are too tired and don’t want ourselves to be involved in child naughtiness. But this is very unfair and instead of ignoring them, play with them by singing, painting, reading, or merely talking because you are responsible for shaping your child’s spirit.
Talk with Love
Never think that your child does not understand what scolding is- because they do understand by seeing your facial expressions. Instead of scolding and shouting, talk to them lovingly even if they do not know what you are saying because slowly and steadily, they will know what is right and wrong for them.
If your toddler is making any mischief, hold them, instead of scolding him. Take them out for a while, which is beneficial in many ways; firstly, they will indulge in another thing, explore new things around them, & they will know the experience of relaxing into loving arms.
Some Other Tips To Stop Yelling At Kids
- Reading books with your family is a fun hobby that allows everyone to express their thoughts.
- Adults and children can have a powerful interaction by making eye contact. When you speak to children from such a high point, some kids are scared. They may respond better if you can get down to their eye level.
- Encourage two-way exchanges while discussing with them about negative decisions they’ve made. It’s OK to be blunt about the types of errors they made but do so in a way that preserves their dignity and allows them to have some participation.
- Give them appreciation or rewards for their respectful communication, behavior, and problem-solving skills. These habits could come back to haunt them at a crucial point in their life.
- Keep in mind that children are still learning about life. They’re going to make blunders and test the waters.
So these were the essential tips for taking care of your child or a toddler when he is mischievous rather than scolding them. Now, I don’t have to scold my kid because whenever there is any such situation, I follow these tips, and it is all sorted.
If you like this article, please like, share, and comment. And if you also scold your kid, just follow my tips at least once and see the change yourself.
Stay happy and always blessed, and never regret anything. After all, you are the caregiver of your kid, and you have the right to take care of your child the way you want. Now, click here to check Top 10 Parenting Tips For The First Time Parents || A Guide By Manya.