You Can Reach Heights If You Have Family Support – Here Is My Story
I, married at the age of 18, only to face the hustle-bustle, chaos, dramas, real literal fights, etc., and believe me, these are no ones’ cup of tea. AND I don’t know why but I also accepted this all to be my destiny. My hubby is a loving person who never bothered me. HUH! But you may be knowing about the typical joint families. No money in hand [except what I got from my parents]; life was torturing me. No dreams, no life, no ambitions, no goals, it seemed like ‘bas jiye jaa rahe hain.’
Then somehow pleading in front of my MIL, I got permission to complete my graduation and then my post-graduation after my daughter’s birth. It took me 12 long years after my twelfth to complete my studies. I always dreamt of teaching as my profession but lacked support and degree. Then after 14 long years of my marriage, my son was born, and we switched to a nuclear family.
Alas, here starts my journey, my life of passion, my love for books took over me, and I started my private tuitions with the support of my husband, my parents, and my sister. I was never confident that I could take this so far because all these 15 years of my life in a joint family and its tantrums have left me broken and shattered. I started with manual tuition for one kid, and for 1.5 years, I only had 2 of them as my students. But as it is said, ‘Koshish karne wali ki Kabhi har nhi hoti.’ (The one who tries, never fails)
My parents and my sister believed in me, and my husband proved to be my support system, and after two years [2016-2018], people came to know about my teaching style, and after that, I have never looked back.
But as we all know that the year 2020 was a terrible one due to the world stuck by the Covid pandemic. The classes were again shut, and then I started online classes. During that tough year, life as a wife, a mother, and a teacher became tough. I was not ready to make my students suffer, so I started online classes and reduced my fee structure to negligible. In the beginning, it was tough to manage the time with hands sometimes burnt while cooking and sometimes bloated in ink while writing notes for my students; head aching while teaching my kids, and so many of them that can’t be given words.
Though the time is tough to date, it has been more than a year managing all, and now slowly, I am getting used to it. Today the reality is that it’s tough for me to spend my Saturdays and Sundays sitting idle and nothing to do.
Every day I get up at 5:30 am because I have class from 6 am to 8 am in morning. Then doing my household chores till 11:00 am and then from 11:30 – 2 pm have classes online, 2-6 offline classes, and again 7- 11 online, it’s really fun. In the meantime completing my cooking, etc., teaching my kids. Now my nights are restless only when my kids and students have exams the next day. I am rewarded when my students score good grades, when they share their teacher’s feedback, when their parents share their family issues, and so on.
I believe for a teacher – the students are an extended family. It is due to them all that today I have regained my identity, my strength, all by the grace of almighty. I now have a small community of 15-17 students, and they make me feel contended. It’s not always the money that matters but more importantly; it’s the satisfaction and respect you get from your passion.
This was the life I dreamt of. And recently, for two weeks, I am following my passion for writing, and my dear friend Namita Singla Ji [ a gem of heart ] has provided me an opportunity to do so.
ZINDAGI YUHI GUJAR RAHI THI,
BINA KOI AHMIYAT LIYE,
KHUD KI KHUDI KO KHO CHUKE THE
BINA KOI ZEHMAT LIYE ..
AAJ KE HALAATON NE
YE SAMJHA DIYA JANAB HUME,
ZINDAGI HAR KISIKO EK MAUKA DETI HAI ..
BANDE KI KISMAT USIKE HAATH H YAAR
JO HO KOI SAAF NIYAT LIYE..